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| 3-Nov-2009 >> |
Desmond has been married for five years now and has two children with Dede. They have a six year old girl and a two year old boy. For the past two years; they have been living apart though not divorced because of her constant lies. Desmond says he got upset with her lies; and moved out for a while - only to return to find her packed out- to her mother’s place. Efforts to convince her to come back proved futile since her mother in- law constantly intervened.
It was whilst at her parent’s home that Dede conceived and bore the two – year old. During one of your usual visits; last week, Dede revealed to Desmond that their two – year old son belongs to another man. According to her, she got in touch with an ex – boyfriend and after an evening of drinks had an affair. She said that even though she visited Desmond over some weekends, the seed had already been sown by her ex boyfriend.
This revelation has been a big blow to Desmond. His spirit has been dampened by this news. He is in shock and denial. Dede has even dared him to subject himself to a DNA test if she doubts what she is saying. Desmond feels humiliated; for this is a boy the whole world thinks is his son and bears his name.
What should Desmond do? Let’s help advice him.
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| 2-Nov-2009 >> |
James, a master’s degree student in UK called us today and said he needed our loyal listeners to advice him. He said he met Moesha – a medical student - during one of his holidays in Ghana. They became friends; one thing led to the other and they have decided to tie the knot in December. Just last week, however, Moesha revealed to him that she cannot marry him because she was once involved in a lesbian-relationship and her former partner is jealous and has threatened to disclose their past affair. Moesha is now a stanch Christian and hence, she has decided to let go of her marriage plans rather than submit both herself and James to any humiliation. James is very confused and hurt. He says invitation cards have been sent out, venues booked, and more importantly he really loves her and thinks she is the perfect mate for him. But Moesha has asked him to give her space. She has recently started distancing herself from the relationship, even though she confesses she also loves him.
So on drive talk today, we are asking; what should James do? Let’s help a distressed brother. Should he forget about her and move on, or should he convince Moesha that the marriage can still work? |
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| 30-Oct-2009 >> |
One man’s meat is another man’s poison, the saying goes, and indeed, we all have different tastes and preferences. Well, we are keeping it simple today. We want to hear from all you men and women out there. Men: what three things would compel you to settle down with a woman? And women: what three things would make you settle down with a man.
Say it all here. It’s Drive Talk so let’s get talking.
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| 29-Oct-2009 >> |
We all lie about everything and nothing; about what we did or did not do - To deceive people or avoid the consequences of being exposed. We lie to gain an unfair advantage or spice up some undesirable expect of our lives. The rich, the poor, the virtuous, the sinner, all lie though; the frequency may vary from person to person. Religiously or by socialization, however, we are told that lying is bad and unacceptable- but is it so all the time? Some people argue that sometimes lying is necessary or even good to save a life, to mend a relationship or to get someone to act positively.
Today on the drive, we ask you; should we always and without fail, speak the truth regardless of the consequences? Do you accept that there is something like a big lie, a small lie a good lie and a bad lie? Let us know on the drive.
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| 27-Oct-2009 >> |
Afua’s husband is the headmaster of a senior secondary school. He has been teaching for twenty five years and only just manages to look after his family with his salary.
In recent years; Afua has noticed that her husband receives expensive gifts from parents of students in his school. She is disturbed and thinks her husband should refuse the gifts since they will ultimately compromise his judgment and professionalism. Just recently he received a note from a parent asking him to pick a car as an appreciation for his assistance in helping his child pass his final exams; his wife is against this latest development and has asked him to refuse it. Victor vehemently disagrees and says gifts are gifts and rejecting it may hurt the man’s feelings or damage his relationship with him.
On drive today we are asking though we all have our values and principles we live by; under what circumstances will you accept or refuse a gift?
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| 26-Oct-2009 >> |
One of the most valuable things anyone can have is a best friend. One who is true and loyal and endures for all times- like the friendship between David and Jonathan in the Bible.
However the constraints of modern living lead some people to state that – that kind of friendship is impossible these days. The cynics claim life has become so hard that all friends have become like politicians- they only have permanent interests.
On drive talk today, we ask you, is this true, or not?
If you are lucky or blessed to have a true best friend, let us know his or her name and what keeps your friendship going strong.
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| 23-Oct-2009 >> |
Trust, they say, is the foundation of any successful relationship. But in today’s relationships, people don’t seem to trust each other. You’ll find couples checking each others phones for calls and messages, asking their boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands or wives where they are, going through his or her letters or even their wardrobe to find if someone has bought them anything.
This Friday, I’d like to know if you would be okay if your partner went through your personal things. Do you mind when they go through your phone or your emails? Do you think it’s healthy for your relationship? Or do you think it’s a bad sign of distrust and insecurity?
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| 20-Oct-2009 >> |
After yesterdays scenario on drive time we received a call from kweku who is dead against the extended family system. Kweku traces all his current woes to his father’s inability to focus on his family. His father was educated and well to do but was saddled with the burden of caring for his extended family. He recalls that, his father’s hypertension and subsequent stroke increased whenever he got bombarded with issues concerning his extended family hence not giving him and his other siblings the proper care.
Even though majority of submissions from our listeners yesterday proved they were in support of the extended family we want people to tell us about how we can improve our extended family set up to make it more beneficial. Unlike the developed countries – Ghana does not have well structured social support systems.
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| 19-Oct-2009 >> |
In the past, the extended family was a form of social control. Though you are the biological child of your father and mother (parents), everybody else remotely related to them was also part of your family. They could discipline you, advise you, or help you depending on the circumstances. In the extended family system, your father’s brother was just as much your father with full powers. Every body was his brother’s keeper.
Others are also of the view that, the nuclear family is the best. They argue that, the extended family encourages laziness, discourage investments and promotes irresponsibility – for why should you be responsible for someone’s else’s thoughtless actions, to the extent of paying children’s school fees or providing accommodation for a distant third cousin from a dried up family tree?
Today on drive talk we are ask; which one do you prefer? Would you encourage extended family system since these days it has become nonexistent and non functional or to you, you think the individualism and capitalism that nuclear family brings must be maintained.
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| 15-Oct-2009 >> |
A man in his mid forties came to the drive talk desk here at joy fm with a dicey situation. He is torn between his Christian values, his family responsibility and his civic duty to expose crime. Koma’s story is simple – After a long sojourn abroad, he was surprised when he came down to Ghana this year to discover that his 27 year – old nephew was playing with under 23 team in Ghana. When Koma was leaving Ghana, his nephew was 7, now after 20 years abroad, he comes back to find the boy playing with under 23 team. This has been troubling him greatly but his children have advised him to let it be since the boy is doing well internationally and the revelation will destroy the footballer’s name and career but koma feels that as a Christian he has a duty to live true, as an Uncle, he has to correct his nephew and as a citizen, he has to expose wrong.
So what do you think? Should he be a good Christian and publicize the boy’s true age? Or will the revelation cause more problems than it seeks to solve? Advise koma on Drive – Talk.
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