we are revisiting what we discussed yesterday due to popular request. Ama introduced her fiance Justice to her family and discussed plans of them getting married. After introduction, Ama’s dad welcomed him and said they would do some background checks. During his investigations into the background of justice, it came to light that; most of justice’s uncle’s are unmarried but have children with different women, more so, his own siblings are notorious and have a bad name within their community. As if this was not enough, he learnt that two of justice’s aunties are currently suffering from mental illness. This revelation has created a different picture about Justice in Ama’s family. Ama’s father says; bad character traits run through the family and he will not have anything to do with such a family. Ama is confused, she loves her fiancé and believes her marriage to justice will create a difference in the family. On drive talk today, we are asking would it be proper to judge a person’s character by looking at the family they come from, since its blood related, others however hold the view that character is always a unique quality to every individual regardless of their family or bloodline and environment. What is your opinion? Let your voice be heard on drive talk.
Bola, it family background does matter. my bro is now separated from his wife 'cos she's so quarrelsome and does not give anyone of us peace. after investigations, we got to know her mum troubled her dad the same way until he had a heart attack and died when she was 3yrs. the mum got married again and the man ran and left the home for her. over 15yrs now he's not been heard of. we got to know this too late: when they are married. so bola, family background DOES matter
submitted by NAA, KNUST7-Oct-2009
If family character traits are the bench mark for marriage approval other than individual character then i wonder if people like justice will ever get a woman to marry.
submitted by winfred, cantoment7-Oct-2009
HI BOLA,
AS I SAID YESTERDAY, I THINK THE FATHER IS UNREASONABLE AND I THINK WE ARE BEING JUDGMENTAL HERE. WE ARE JUDGING JUSTICE'S FAMILY BASE ON WHAT. MENTAL ILLNESS COULD CAUSE BY ANYTHING. THE AUNTS COULD BE DEPRESSED AND THE BROTHERS BEHAVIOR ARE NOT GENETIC. I THINK WE HAVE TO LEARN HOW GENETIC WORK IN THIS SHOW NEXT TIME.
submitted by AMA, USA7-Oct-2009
Sometimes we need to listen to advice because God will definately not come down to warn us over impending danger. He uses human beings to achieve his purpose. There are some families that we will all want to associate with while for others, we iwll want to shun away from. Our decisions are obvoisly informed by what we see and hear . Ama should listen to her parents because the tendendcy is for us to follow our hearts all the time. Here is a family whose trademarks are negative throughout.
Please be guided
submitted by Sedinam7-Oct-2009
Bolex,bad character traits and disease conditions has got nothing to do with what we are talking about here.Why do we even love at the site of death in accidents.Sometimes ,you even ignore your own wound and attend to someone else's.What we are talking about is a soul to soul-soultie affair.The two of them should ignore their families and elope if possible.Coz love enduresall.peace.Please will need a shout out on my birthday; 20th of this month.tks.
submitted by Julie dDuzy8-Oct-2009
Bola, what was Ama doing all this time that she couldn't investigate about Justice before accepting his proposal.She should have done this on her own before bringing Justice to the nose of her parents.However, human beings are uniquely created and the fact that some of his family members have questionable character means JUSTICE will also do similar to Ama.He should be given the chance.
submitted by Mc Tony Ho8-Oct-2009
Bola, I bet you that family background matters so much. I've seen alot and Justice will surely be havinng about 80%of those characteristics. For instance my brother when going to marry was told that in that house women marry 3 or 4 times and also they are thieves. We all say, our in-law is different but all came to pass as investigated. The lady should listern to thevfather and know that only God is love. That love she says she loves Justice is of no use in marriage.
submitted by Yayra8-Oct-2009
Bola, I suggest Ama should seriously reconsider her decision to marry Justice., becauae unless both of them are truely born again and 'practicing' christians, there is no way they can stay unaffected by the generational curse that seem to be on the family of Justice. I know of a friend whose wife, mother in law and brother in law are all insane. Yes, such things do run through the family. Did any one hear the story of a rich upper class family in America who adopted some few days old baby, gave him the best of education, love, protection etc, but the boy grew up to become an armed robber exactly like the biological father he never knew, and ended up in jail ? It is also biblical. Check David and his decendants especially Solomon. Their weakness was women - like most of us men. Ama use your head and not your heart if you can!
